I am regularly writing on a regional yuva chautaree visit- (http://www.hetaudanews.com.np/show.php?at=1&sn=47 , http://yuvachautaree.blogspot.com/, ). As dashain is coming near, I wrote an article on dashain and I got some response from readers. One of my friend suggested posting this article on my blog. So here’s the article.

दशैं संग गासिँएका केही कुरा

हामी नेपालीले धेरै कुरामा अन्र्तरार्षिट्रय रुपमा आफुलाई सम्मानजनक रुपमा प्रस्तुत गर्न नसकेपनि केही कुरा छन्  जो हामी जोसुकैको अगाडी पनि शिर उचोँ पारेर प्रस्तुत हुन सक्छौं । ति मध्ये एक हो हाम्रो कला र  संस्कृति । आधुनिक हुने नाउँमा हामीले हाम्रा संस्कृतिलाई बिस्रन खोजे पनि यी संस्कृतिका महत्व र विशिष्टतामा कुनै कमि आउने छैन बरु उल्टो आगामी दिनमा यसको महत्व झन् बढि हुदैं जाने देखिन्छ । हामीले आफ्नो भनेर गर्व गर्न सक्ने यो माटो र यहि माटोमा उम्रे हुर्केका कला संस्कृति नै हुन् । तर विडम्बना हामी यि कुरालाई कि त आवश्कता भन्दा बढाई चढाई गरेर खोक्रो आडम्बरको रुपमा प्रस्तुत गर्न खोज्छौं कि त आफ्ना सबै कुरा नराम्रा र अरुका सबै राम्रो भन्ने हिन मानसिकता बाट ग्रसित भएर जर्बजस्ती रुपमा आफ्नो संस्कृतिमा पश्ििचमीकरण गर्न खोज्छौं जुन कुरा हाम्रो माटोमा सजिलै पच्दैन ।

देशै भरी प्राकृतिक विपत्ति परेका बेलामा  मौसमले सुखद संकेत नगरेपनि दशैं आफ्नो प्राकृतिक चक्र अनुसार हाम्रो आगँनमा पाइल्ाा टेक्न आइपुगिसकेको छ । हामीले दशैंलाई साँस्कृतिक नजरले मात्र हेर्न खोजेपनि यो संग सामाजिक  आर्थिक वातावरणिय र अन्य कुरापनि गाँसिएको छ । केही वर्षयता हरेक साँस्कृतिक पद्धति प्रति हाम्रो मान्यता र व्यवहारमा फेरबदल आइरहेको छ । उदाहरणको लागी बिहे  ब्रतबन्ध जस्ता कुराहरुमा आएको तडकभडकलाई लिन सकिन्छ । त्यसको प्रभाव दशैंमा पनि देखिन्छ ।

दशैंलाई आम रुपमा मिठो खाने र राम्रो लाउने पर्वको रुपमा बुझ्ने गरिन्छ तर त्यसरी मात्र बुझ्दा त्यो साँघुरो बुझाई हुनेछ । ूराम्रोूको आफैंमा कुनै सिमा छैन  यसैले हुने खानेको ूराम्रोू र भए खानेको राम्रो विच धेरै फरक हुनसक्छ ।

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चाड पर्वमा बजार महँगो हुनु कुनै नयाँ कुरा होइन…। हुनत नैतिकता हाम्रो राष्ट्रिय कमजोरी हो । राजनीतिक तह  कर्मचारी वर्ग र अझ व्यापारिक क्षेत्रमा यि सदावहार कमजोरी हुन् । दशैं तिहार जस्ता पर्वको मुखमा लुट्ने मौका यहि हो भनेर कतिपय व्यापारीहरु कम्म्ार कसेर लागेका हुनसक्छन् । उसो त उपभोक्ता अधिकारका बारेमा नत उपभोक्ता नै सचेत छन् न उपभोक्ता अधिकारका बारेमा बाजा बजाउनेहरु यसबारेमा केही सिन्को भाच्ँने काम गर्छन् । उपभोक्तालाई आफैं ठगिँदै छु भन्ने कुरा थाहा हुदाँहुदैं पनि यसको विरुद्धमा केही गर्न जाँगर चलाएको देखिन्न। पसलेसंग सामानको वार्गेनिङ्ग गर्नु मात्र उपभोक्ताको कर्तव्य होइन । दशैंको सन्र्दभमा कुरा गर्दा धेरै खर्च गरेर दशैं राम्रो हुन्छ भन्ने गलत मानसिकता पनि त्याग्न जरुरी छ । दशैं वस्तु संग गाँसिएको कुरा भन्दा पनि यो भावनात्मकतासंग बढि गाँसिएको कुरा हो । परिवारका सदस्य विच आत्मिक सम्बन्धको सृदृढिकरणमा दशैंले अझ बल पुर्याउँछ । मिठो नखाएपनि र राम्रै नलाएपनि एक अर्का विचको आत्मिय संगतमा रहनु जत्तिको मिठो र राम्रो कुरा अरु के होला र

दशैं कसरी मनाउने भन्ने कुरा हामी आफैंमा भर पर्ने कुरा हो । अरु संग दाँजिएर र अरु भन्दा कम नहुने घमण्ड पालेर दशैं मनाईयो भने त्यसले नत हाम्रो परम्परा र संस्कृतिको सम्र्बदन गर्न सक्छ नत त्यसरी मनाइएको दशैंबाट कुनै सुख प्राप्त हुन्छ ।
देशमा सामन्तवादको राजनैतिक रुपमा अन्त त भईसकेको छ तर हाम्रो संस्कार र मानसिकतामा रहेको सामन्तीपनालाई त्याग्दै देश नयाँ नेपाल बन्ने क्रममा जुटिरहेको बेला दशैं यो धर्म त्यो धर्म यो जात त्यो जातको भन्नु भन्दा पनि यसलाई विविधतामा एकताको एउटा पर्वको रुपमा लिनु बुद्धिमानी हुन सक्छ । गणतान्त्रिक नेपालको पहिलो दशैं सबैको मंगल रहोस् । शुभकामना ।

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Sometime in life things happen spontaneously. Things don’t go on our plan. A special thing happened this Sunday, without any plan I was in her home to see her smiling face, which I haven’t seen since long. Most of the time we were silence, sometime silence speaks more than thousand words. I would like to thank her for nice tea, lunch the nice hospitality with sweet smile.

Hello my dear father! How are you? Wherever you are I hope you are good.

Today it’s your fourth memorial day. But still I feel you are with us. Though you are physically invisible but I can see you with my inner eyes, I can hear you.

You are/were the simplest gentle, kind honest person I have ever seen in this world. You were/are my first friend of life.

You were my first teacher, who taught me A B C D of life and existence. You lived a short but a meaning full life and great life. You have a good space in the heart of many people including me.For two decade we were together, I don’t remember a single day you treated me as a son, you were my good friend, and till now I miss you as a friend but that doesn’t weaken my deep respect for you as my father.

I know that my grandpa and your father past away when you were just 1 year old. You told us that; you don’t remember your father’s face (how cruel the life was with you). But you simply lived a great life beside these cruelties.

For your students at college you were the best teacher, for the villagers and relatives you were really helpful. At your office you were one of the dedicated staff. You were the first person to hold Master degree in my village, First man to initiate electricity campaign in our village.

People don’t honor you for what you achieved but what you contributed for the society.

You were a social person. When you past way, you left many things and one of the most important thing you left is a great message “LIFE FOR THE NATION/ WORLD. DO SOMETHING FOR PEOPLE AND THIS WORLD”. People are not only judged for what they achieved personally but are judged by their contribution to the world.

To the world you might be someone and to me you are the world. You were laborious person, never got time for rest and luxury, no time to eat properly, the cruel cancer attacked you and you past away.

My dear please father, forgive me for taking time to understand you and perceive your message, as Mahatma Gandhi had said “my life is my message”, in the same way your life is your message. I know you always had dreamt your son to be a next social person, I believe I am in that direction. I am working from my small level to bring change in world. I always need your moral guidance, support and encouragement.

I can go on writing for more than ten thousand words, I am not able to describe you and express my feelings towards you completely. I know you are somewhere looking me and my activities, so I am unable to hide any things from you. You are my strength.My dear father/teacher/good friend/brother, where ever you are, there might be no one like you son to remind you take medicine, so take care of yourself.

Our relationship will never die. Always keep us (me, mom and brother) very close to you keep on giving guidance support encouragement and keep on blessing us.

8.09 AM, September 11, 2008

We may not shower him with praise

Nor mention his name in song,
And sometimes it seems that we forget
The joy he spreads as he goes along,
But it doesn’t mean that we don’t know
The wonderful role that he has had.
And away down deep in every heart
there’s a place that is just for Dad…..

The life has some meaning; it’s not the philosophy only to think about the life, its objective, its destiny. It’s an individual interest, desire and duty. I might have different thought than you; people say life start with birth and ends with death, for individual it might be true. But life exists before and after death.

So as a human we are given a start time to live in this planet “earth”, No one knows where we were from and where we will go. But it is true that one day we were not in this planet as a human and one day we will not be here as a human. We all make our own destiny, for someone it might a higher post at organization, for someone he might want to be richer person, for someone he might want a nice wife/husband friend, for someone it might be some academic achievements etc. I know you also have something inside you, clear/unclear!. When I was just 13 years old, the same thing stroked on my mind, “what is the destiny of my life? And where is that?”

Till now when I wakeup with some nice dreams, the same thing strike on my mind, I know the destiny is not so far and not so near. The path is not so easy and not so difficult too. One day I will try to reach up to my destiny…………………… But still I am little bit confused is it my (social, professional, academic) achievement or self exploration?

People define “life” on their own way. Your definition might be different from mine, as you live different life than me, you have your own heart, mind, and eye to see, feel and understand life. It is an individual self exploration. We want to define it on our way and simply and make it abstract but life is so simple our thinking makes it complex.

What we see is equally important as how we see! And what we see is not complete,

Sansar thulo cha.

My dear blog and blog readers. There’s no update since couple of weeks. I am being Lazy these days, so no new posts in my blog. Though many things running in my mind at a time. But its being hard to write any thing. My exam is coming soon so I have to plan for that, there are many things to do at a time, so I am really LOST (my friend’s word for me!). There are many things to write. Talking about Nepalese poliicts, New government is planning for new budget, CPNUML & Nepali Congress are busy in their central committee meeting. Comrade Prachanda is going to INDIA. Thousands of lives has been affected through koshi river, Load shedding has been increased ; three hours a day.

It is said that doing many things at a time is like doing nothing completely, I am feeling same. Hope i will be fine by next week.